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Novacane ... I'm sorry for your pain. Since we were deceived from the beginning it's hard to know if what your writing is just another story or the real deal. One question I have for you....if you truly love this lady .... why would you tell the world about her -if any - dark past??? ... Aren't we suppose to shield our loved ones? ....

I'll keep you in my prayers. Hope you fine peace somewhere.

 

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I want to commend you on writing out how you feel, and to let you know that we do care. I understand how it helps to get things off of your chest, keep doing it. I just have a couple of things that I would like to get out. My recommendation is not to diet by fasting, shocking your body is not healthy and you will likely end up gaining the weight back. Try eating healthier, smaller portions and start exercising SLOWLY and keep increasing the pace. This has worked tremedously for me to lose weight, I will guarantee you to lose at least 3-5 lbs a week. It will take time to get the weight off, maybe years. That may seem overwhelming but think back to how many years have you been overweight. And you will feel alot better about yourself too.

And second confidence is what appeals to women. I think once you start losing the weight you will feel alot better about yourself and it will show. I don't know how to be PC about this so I am just going to say it. I know you love this woman but you can't keep subjecting yourself to that pain over and over again of her cheating on you. I was cheated on before so I know how it feels, but I couldn't imagine going through it over and over again. What I am trying to get at is once you get your confidence back you will see that there are many women out there that will love YOU as much as you love her, and they won't do these bad things to you. You just have to give yourself a break from it and spend time on yourself to figure out what you have to do to make your life better. No one will change your life for you, you have to do it for yourself. If that means leaving her so be it, but you can't stay in the position you are in. From what I am reading it sounds like hell.

 

Hey guy, first be glad that you have your parents, brother and son. That's way more than a lot of people have so you're starting off ahead of the game already.

Take your weight loss seriously and I guarantee you will see a significant difference sooner than you think. I, personally, don't think fasting is the way to go only because it's so extreme and thirty days is a long time. It's almost setting yourself up to fail and you don't want to do that. Getting a smart eating plan (think about joining Weight Watchers online) and exercising just a little is going to make amazing changes.

Don't borrow trouble and think of possible future obstacles (excess skin etc.). Think of now and get to work. It will give you something to focus on and hopefully get your mind off of her. I don't mean to be unkind but I hope you will understand sooner rather than later that you deserve better than someone who consistently cheats on you. Don't do this for her, or thinking that you will get her back. Get yourself back and worry about the rest later.

I really do wish you good luck and I hope you keep us posted. Chin up, worse things have happened and you're way to young to write off the rest of your life.

 

Its nice to hear that you are still posting things. I would like to wish you good luck on your weight loss. I'm thinking of doing the same fasting myself. I have gained weight being pregnant and would like to lose it. Anyway, keep going forward, because that's all we can do. Remember that you are really not alone. It sounds like you have a lot of support on here. I wish you all the best.

 

This sounds like a very sad relationship. The best part is the relationship you have built with your son. It sounds like he does love and care for you.

As far as she goes!
What was her inner beauty? It sounds like she can be bought and that is not love.

Loose the weight, go on with your life.

In my lifetime I have met people who were attractive on the outside but what was on the inside changed their whole appearance. And I have met people who on the outside were not as attractive but something that was beautiful on the inside shown through and they were more attractive than those with the outer attractive appearance.

If you put your trust in the Lord I know things will work out for you! I know it hurts but in the long run it may be the best thing that happend to you!

I wish you the best and hope one day you find someone who cares for who you are inside!

Goin Fer It's Wife

 

...hey brother yoopr, whats with the Joe Walsh song?....

 

Forget all this bogus advise on here unless the advice leads you to gods word.
Get yourself a bible and read it, then read it again , then read it again.

Start living for god, not yourself and you will find true happiness.

Quit being selfish with this me, me, me, crap and do the right thing, find god, he will guide you to true happiness.

 

Once a cheater, always a cheater. You should have dumped her long ago. It's sad when it happens but you can't make someone love you.

If I was you, I'd forget about her and start living for you. Get rid of all the junk food and sodas and start walking if possible. Even if it's just to the mailbox and back or whatever. And gradually increase the distance. You'll be feeling better in no time. We only live once dude, gotta make the best of it. You can feel sorry for yourself or you can do what you gotta do to improve your life. No one can do it but you. Good luck man.